Mom: "You may invite some friends over for your birthday. But since we can't invite every friend in your class, it would be polite and kind to make sure you don't mention it at school, where everyone can hear about it. The people who aren't invited might feel sad."
Daughter: "Ok mom! I know what you mean. One time my friend had some girls over and I wasn't included. They talked about it at school and I wanted to cry."
"I know, it happened to me when I was little too. I'm so sorry that the girls talked about it in front of you. Let's pray that all the kids in your class will grow and mature, and they will remember to put others' feelings first. That's what God wants us to do...to serve others before ourselves, and to treat them they way we want to be treated. He wants us to just care about others and make it our priority to never hurt anyone."
Sound familiar? Did your mom say these things to you? Have you said them to your daughter? Your son?
Now let me talk about Facebook. I think it can be pretty awesome. I've connected with old friends, and can see pics of friends and family far away. But I also think it is changing us...slowly chipping away at the lessons our parents taught us:
Be kind always.
Put others first.
Build each other up.
Be considerate to others
If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
Think about the posts you see in your newsfeed. How many of them are rants? How many of them contain swearing? How many of them are critisizingly political? How many of them show pics from a party, the one not everyone was invited to?
Can we go back, back to that advice from our moms...can we be kind and gracious and considerate to our Facebook friends? Can we leave the selfish pride behind? Can we use Facebook in a way that's not all about ourselves?
Facebook can be a slippery slope, a slow descent into a loss of compassion...a loss of selflessness. Dare I say it...a place for bragging?
Who do you want to be? What qualities do you want your Facebook friends to see in you? What qualities does your Facebook wall show about you? Are they offensive to anyone? If they are, do you really need to post it? Do your Facebook comments exemplify the advice you give your children?
If we give good advice to our children, we ought to follow it ourselves.